Why I Decided To Take Him Home

Hello Beautiful People!

Before I start to explain why or how I decided to take my fiancé (stranger at the time) home with me. I have to say that I don't consider my fiancé my first love but I do consider him my first serious relationship. The reason why I say this is because I have done the dating thing and I have done the online dating thing before I met my fiancé. I've dated a guy for 5 years but never physically met him (that's a long story for another time) and I have went on dates with guys, which now I realized didn't even deserved my time. People assume that my relationship with my fiancé is my first time 'tasting' love but it's not. It's my fault and my choosing to keep my past non-serious relationships private because well let's be serious, it's easier to handle a relationship that didn't work out in private, or at least that my opinion. Also, being disabled and dating is hard enough so the simpler the better. I know that some people may not agree with me but this is how I decided to handle my dating life, in private. With that being said, my reasons for bringing him home are different than the average able-bodied person, so keep that in mind.

Now for all the dirty-minded people out there, when I say take him home with me, I mean welcome him into my life, have the honor of meeting my family, and letting him see me unfiltered.

As cliché as this may sound (I'm going to say a lot of cliché things in this post #sorrynotsorry ), I met my fiancé at the most unexpected time, I was getting over a 5-year relationship, I was focusing on being academically successful in college, I was doing what I wanted, when I wanted. And then I get a message from this guy saying simply "Hi.". Something in his simplicity, intrigued me. Not to brag, but I thought to myself how can this guy can simply say hi to a beautiful girl like me. I just had to know what he wanted. Then, one thing lead to the next and here we are, happy and in love.

He is like no one I have ever met and I have met a lot of people throughout my life. He's the most honest, selfless and genuine human being I ever encountered till this day. When I met him, I had my guard up so high because he honestly seemed too good to be true. I would remind him to not feel bad if me being disabled was too much for him and to tell me right away so that we could go our separate ways. I'm disabled so I can say this, dating a disabled person is a lot to handle and some people, who can be the nicest people ever, may not want to date a disabled person and THAT'S OKAY. It's doesn't mean that they are horrible people.

So after I was 100% sure that he was okay with dating a disabled woman and explained the ins and outs of my disability. I let myself open up just a little bit more and agreed to meeting up with him. That was when I started to noticed little things he did for me that I didn't even know I needed/wanted in a man. On our first date, we ate pizza and while we were waiting for the pizza, I was freaking out to myself because I can't eat pizza by myself so I was trying to figured out how to ask him to cut my pizza without being weird but when the pizza arrived at our table, he right away grab a slice and fed me it. I fell a little for him in that moment, not going to lie.

He is from India, so their dating culture is WAY different from American dating culture but he tried to adapt and listen to what I was expecting from the relationship. He has come a long way to say the least. He isn't afraid to try new things in order to better himself and gain more experience, and that's what I wanted in a man. Someone who would be open-minded and not afraid to go on adventures.

He has never ever pity me, not ONCE for being disabled. In fact, he does the opposite and tells me how I can do anything if I really wanted it.

I knew him for a little while when he already felt like home to me. I never fully understood love songs or people's advice on love until he made me feel safe simply by being in his arms. I was so comfortable and sure about him that I decided I was ready to take him home to momma when it was my third time meeting up with him and we were having dinner with my mom and sister, introducing each other. I would say dinner was successful because here we are almost three years later and my mom adores him along with my whole family.

Being in public while you are in a inter-abled relationship is tough because sadly society isn't used to seeing romantic love being share between an disabled person and an able-bodied person. So that was another thing that I knew I wanted in a man, someone who isn't embarrass to show affection towards me while in a public setting. Like anyone, my fiancé had to get use to strangers staring at us and luckily he did. Now, I hardly notice the stares because I'm just so proud to hold this man's hand and know that he's mine and also know that he is proud to call me his too.

Some say that our relationship was starting out kind of fast but we disagree because it felt so right. We aren't fond of posting everything of our relationship on social media because we just want enjoy real life. I believe it took me 3 months to announce on Facebook that I was in a relationship with him and about a month to announce that we were engaged, not because I was embarrass or scared of what people might say but just because I nor we needed people's validation, we were happy and that all that mattered. I do have admit that sometimes I did have stop myself and assess the relationship because the fear of getting hurt was still lounging around my head. But with every day that went by during our first year, that fear of getting hurt slowly became non-existent. He has love me so well that I thank God everyday for putting him, a good-hearted man in my life. He has to help me with very personal things related to the inability of being able to do it myself because of my disability, that I truly don't believe all men can do, and even then he has been so respectful and mature through it all.

Nonetheless, he slowly has become and now is my person, my bestfriend, the holder of all my secrets, my shoulder to cry on, my favorite hugger, my favorite drinking buddy, my favorite dancing partner, and my favorite person to laugh, joke, and have fun with.

Now he is all intertwined in my life and in my home, and I wouldn't want it any other way. I appreciate this man so damn much and I'll be forever grateful for all he has done for me.

I now prefer having wine in my pajamas while watching TV with my man on any day of the week then going out to nightclubs. It's something about just being in each other's presence and love that makes life that much sweeter.

It was all these little moments including when he gave me my promise ring, that's when I knew deep in my heart that I needed to let him all the way into my home and if he decided to stay, I would one day marry him. In our relationship, we fight and get hell of annoyed with each other but once thing is for sure, the love we have for each other is impossible to be even measured. And as if I would have predicted the future, here we are planning our wedding, continuing our happily ever after.

I wish everyone a person like my person, believe me they're out there.

To my love, I can't wait to be your wife, I love you.

This was taken during our engagment shoot

XO Ashley