Our Lovely Interracial Relationship

Hello beautiful people!

It has been a while since I felt the itch to write to you guys. To be honest, I have been so consumed with my life, trying to be the best version of me, AND finally started to get the ball rolling on our plans for our wedding that I kind of shut out the outside world for a bit, but I'm back at least for a little. (Thank you to everyone who reached out to me to make sure I was okay, due to my non appearance on my blog).

Today I want to talk about interracial romantic relationships and why I "chose" to be in one. First of, it can be very apparent that my fiance and I are not from the same racial background. His parents are from India and mine are from Mexico, COMPLETELY different cultural backgrounds.

It is kind of weird saying that I "chose" to be in a interracial relationship because I didn't chose to fall in with him, I just did. But, ever since I was growing up I knew, I wasn't going to end up with a Mexican man because they just seemed so ... boring. Now before you Mexican people come at me, let me explain what I mean by boring. I am very Mexican and I'm obsessed with my culture, having a mariachi band, carne asada, and tequila in the backyard is my idea of a good time, so when I was dating and speaking to these Hispanic guys, I would just get bored because I learned nothing new from them. I am a person who is very fond of adventure and learning since I was little, so what was I going to do with a person who I knew already half of what makes them, them? I know what you are thinking, that your partner can still teach you a lot from the same nationality and yes that's very true, some will even say that it brings them comfort, knowing that they can connect on that level. But for me, that's why I have Hispanic friends and I didn't feel like I needed that connection in a romantic type of way. I wanted to TRULY connect with someone with emotions, feelings, and spirituality rather than religion, culture, and race. Now did I think I would end up with someone who is Indian with a Hindu culture, no not really but it was exactly what I didn't know I needed. Hindu culture is absolutely beautiful in every way and while I am committed to my culture, it is so nice to be able to slowly combine our two cultures together. Neither of us, will ever force our cultural practices onto one another but it is nice that we, without being told, support each other and have a mutual respect for one's cultural background.

While I am over the moon that I get to explore my fiance's culture and keep learning different things about what makes up my fiance for the rest of my life. Some people in my life are still warming up to the fact that my fiance doesn't have Mexican roots. Some people worry about if our differences are too strong or if we truly know what we are getting ourselves into being that our cultural ways are different. And to that I say, thank you for looking out for us but it shouldn't matter to them. We are the ones living together day to day so we have been figuring out what works in our relationship these past years and as long as have figured it out and are happy with our lifestyle then everyone should be too. Nothing and nobody is perfect, we are just trying the best that we can and we are among the lucky ones that we fall in love with each other, more and more each day despite of the insignificant differences. I'm truly okay with all these "opinions" because I know my fiance's loved ones are probably thinking the same about me and my cultural background, which I don't blame them. We are not cut from the same cloth. We are different. I know how my fiance feels around "my people" sometimes because I felt the same around his. That's why at the end of the day, who cares what is your partner's nationality because it doesn't matter...because the people who truly support you and want your happiness will look past it. I am extremely blessed to loved ones who support me and us all the way.

Looking into the distant future, we are so excited for our kids to have such a diverse cultural background because we feel it is important to connect to all kinds of diverse people than those we are constantly around. Our kids will hopefully know Spanish, Hindi, English, a little bit of French and then whatever other language they want to learn. In a way that makes me proud because we want them to explore as much of our beautiful world as possible and get enrich with different kinds of knowledge and we are giving them small tools for that.

Now I'm not saying don't date people within your cultural background, I'm saying it is okay if you date people from different cultural backgrounds because at the end of the day, we are all humans and we can teach each other our cultures. I found out throughout the years, while explaining my culture to my fiance I too was learning more about my culture along with him because I was actually looking the reasons of my practices and vise visa and that to me is pretty dang cool :) .

Love is simply love.

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XO Ashley