Nothing is more irritating than...

Hello Beautiful People!

I considered myself a very understanding and chill person. There's not that many things that makes me unbelievable angry. I understand each person has their own things going on and I respect that. But one thing, I can't stand is when I'm talking to a person and they are glued to their phone. I honestly think that it is incredibly disrespectful. Now, let me make something clear, I understand if you need to do something important and fast on your phone and don't want to cut off the conversation. I have done that before but after I'm done, I immediately put my phone away.

I think it is one of the biggest problems we have in society today, is that we don't listen or we don't know how to listen. We are so caught up with our own problems that we tend to forget about others. We tend to be so selfish and just take that we forget that we need to give to also. Life is not a one-way street.

I believe it is also one of the reasons why people feel so alone. It has happen to me a couple of times when I'm telling someone something that is important to me, they start by looking at me then mid-way they drifted into scrolling on their phone and more often then not, I just stop talking altogether because why lose my breath

if they don't care to listen. If I call them out, they always deny it, of course, and say that they are paying attention while scrolling. I do think people can multitasked but I think it's impossible for people to multitask and listen. The two just don't go together in my book. It just makes me feel unimportant and that my feelings and thoughts don't matter. It blows my mind that some people think it's okay to be on their phone while their loved one is telling them about their day. Are we that obsessed with social media to even physically interact with people in our daily lives?

As we were growing up, we were taught that eye contact with another person was very important and now I understand why. It's because when we make eye contact we are engaging with each other, we are saying without words that we are listening. Making eye contact means that we are there in the moment. I remember in the past, I would post an "life" update almost every day, thinking that it was so important for me to do in order to show people that I had a life. Not going to lie, it felt "good" to tell everyone how well my life was, until I realized that nobody really cared what I was doing, they just wanted to know so that they could keep tabs on me. Slowly I stopped. I just did me and succeeded on the down low, when something major happened then I would share it. Usually, I just share things just for shits and giggles. Maybe I'm the only one who thinks like this or maybe there's many people who think like this. I learned that texts and social media can wait, moments in time with people cannot. Your phone will always be there, people, on the other hand, well if they feel unwanted can leave.

I honestly think that it is also part of the reason relationships don't last. We are so caught up in the next new trend or the new breaking story or the gossip, it's easy to forget that you have a person who is waiting for you to give your attention to them instead of your phone. It is the reason why probably your loved one doesn't bother you in asking you for advice, help, or just have a random, fun conversation because they don't want to lose their breath on you anymore, but then you get upset because you're not the first person they ask anymore but it's not their fault, it's ultimately yours because you made them feel like your phone was more important than they were.

So in the morning, look outside the window at the world and minimize your screen time enough so that you could have a peaceful morning not filled with drama and fake news. At work, get to know your coworkers and talk about nothing nesseccarily important, maybe you'll find out that they aren't so bad afterall. At night, watch a video or two, scroll through some memes to destress but don't forget that your life does not need to represent social media. Your life is way better than social media because it's REAL. Social media is just a big misrepresentation of what we think life should be, not what it really is. Humans need human interaction, we think our phones will fill up that need but in the long run it doesn't. So please put your phone down, those posts and pictures can wait, instead listen to one another carefully and I bet that you will feel more happy longer, than any amount of funny videos, shares, comments, or likes combined.

Listen to this little boy!

Thank you for reading!

XO Ashley