Life Tip: Stay Focus On Yourself, Not Others.

Hello Beautiful people!

We, as human beings, hate to disappoint others and especially ourselves. From a young age, we were taught to be the best in everything we do, whether that's being the captain of your soccer team or being the top of your class or even both. We were taught to never stop trying. So when we eventually figured out that it is impossible to be the best at everything, we put ourselves down. I truly believe that we are our own worst critics. We spend hours just going over and analyzing how we could have done better when we could be using that same time to think about how to improve for the next time.

It's not easy, at least for me, to admit to yourself that you have done a mistake. People have such a hard time saying that they messed up and would like to be educated on their mistake. We are always trying to find loopholes so that not all the blame is on us but also on others. We are able to cope with that easier by thinking "yeah I messed up, but so did they". I think it is because of that innate instinct to always be at your top of your game, so when we fail, which we often do, we don't know how to organize our emotions in a sensible way.

What I think people don't realized is that everyone's "life goals" are different and constantly changing. Someone's dream could be getting married, having kids, and being a stay-at-home parent, others may want to be doctors and dedicate their life to research, others may want to work from home to design their own clothes or paint beautiful canvas, others may want a 9 to 5 desk job, others may want to be more hands on, and others may just want any job to support themselves. We may not all want to have the highest profession and make thousands of dollars, and that's okay. I know I don't because I know that is not where my happiness is. We are thriving in our own ways. You are not less than me, and I'm not less than you.

It took me graduating college to realized that I didn't really have that burning passion to be a doctor but what I found out that was more rewarding to me was going TO people and asking if they need help finding resources so that they could "reset" their life or improve their quality of life. People are often afraid to ask or admit that they need help. It takes away their pride and I get that because I have been there before.

Comparison is the worst poison that we have on earth. We LOVE to compare ourselves to others. That is literally all that we do on social media. We post a picture hoping to one up others' weekend and we post a status hoping to prove that we know more than the last person. We want to be like a celebrity so we wear what they wear, always following the latest trend. Or we see that most students are in school clubs so we join as well. We see students applying for graduate school so we apply as well. We don't want to be left behind, we want to be equal or surpass them. But why? I was on the same bandwagon when I realized, I was doing the same as everyone else. When someone told them that they weren't going to college for now, or going into the army or peace corps, I was amazed that they going along with everyone. I'm not saying that going along with everyone else is a bad thing, I'm saying that weren't afraid to go on an uncommon path.

I went on my uncommon path, when I graduated college. Everyone was kind of surprise that I didn't really had an interest in going to graduate school. I could see the slight disappoint in each of their faces and to be honest I was slightly disappointed in myself too because why couldn't I feel that passion like my peers that were going to graduate school. But I'm proud that I didn't lie to myself, that I knew yeah, graduate school would make me happy but not the happiest. It did make me feel some type of way, when I saw my peers being accepted into their selected graduate schools and I stayed "behind". But I 100% do not regret my decision. I know graduate school isn't for me, right now. I'm doing what I didn't have time to do while I was in college and I'm loving every moment of it. I'm discovering new things about myself and learning new ways on how I could be improving myself. This is how I saw myself after college. It may not be everyone's cup of tea but it is mine. I'm okay with not going on the traditional career path. I decided to do what's best for me. And you should do what is best for you, even if its an unique path. And remember it's okay to not get "there" at the same time as everyone else. It's YOUR life, live it YOUR way.

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XO Ashley