How Do You Know?

Hello beautiful people!

HAPPY NEW YEAR! Hope all of you have a great beginning of the year!

I want to talk about a cheesy, moshy topic today because I have been asked the same question many times and I just wanted to share my answer with all of you because why not.

The question is: How do you know he is "the one"?

My short answer is the cliché answer that anyone in love will say, "when you know, you just know." I wish I could explain what that means but it is impossible to explain. I like to think it is something having to do with our souls connecting on a whole other level. Different than any other soulmates (yes, I believe that you have more than one soulmate).

My long answer is this... I knew he was something special when we were on our first date and we went to dinner, and without any hesitation picked up the slice of pizza and fed me it. This meant so much to me because one, he remembered that I told him that I needed help eating and two, we were sitted in the middle of the room where everyone had eyes on us. So, to me this meant that he didn't care that I needed help nor that everyone could see us.

Secondly, I knew this man was someone that I needed to get to know better, when we walked around the city for the first time, and he did not let go of my hand no matter how many stares we got. You see, for me it wasn't mainly about how many times he called me beautiful, or if he was tall, or if he had magically eyes, or if he paid for the bill. Don't get me wrong, I don't look past that but it's not at the top of my list. The main thing I was looking at was if he could "handle" being with someone who has a disability. Now, I'm not saying that being with a person who has a disability is too much, what I'm saying is that I needed someone who could love ALL of me and be an advocate with me and not for me. Like I have said in the past, he is not an angel for being with me, but I am so blessed to be doing life for him.

Thirdly, I knew I was falling for this man when we were planning a date and he said that he would picked me up from the train station but I had to remind him that he couldn't because his car wasn't wheelchair accessible. This moment proved to me that he didn't see me as "a girl in a wheelchair", he saw just me. And that is all I ever wanted from anyone but especially "the one" for me.

Fourthly, I knew he was real when I was on my period and he did not hesitate at all in helping me. Like come on! At that point, I was just like thank you Jesus, thank you universe for this man that I simply cannot let leave now. When I tell you guys, I was straight up with him I was REALLY straight up with him. No beating around the bush with me.

I can't tell you the exact moment I knew that he was "the one" because it was a collection of moments that led to me to waking up and being like yep, it's him. It's different for everyone. Some people know right away, while others take time. In my teenage years, I definitely thought that I was going to be alone forever because I needed so much "help" with my disability. But now I believe that there is a person for everyone, and it is just sometimes difficult to find them because we looking for the wrong person, the person that we think is the right person but sometimes you meet a person who you never thought you could fall in love and marry but you sometimes just do!

Hope that wasn't too cheesy lol. But I wanted to share this because in today's day in age, people are saying that we, millennials, don't need to worry about love or romantic relationships until our 30s. I stand by that because I believe that you need to figure yourself out first and love yourself first and I feel like your 20s are a good time to do that. But at the same time, there's people like me that needed to grow up quicker and therefore, figure themselves out "faster", that falling in love and getting married just feels right. Like I always say age is a just a number, get marry at 23 or 43, it doesn't matter just as long as you are happy!

Thanks for reading!

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XO Ashley